Dating self absorbed man
So remember the golden rule: "If he seems too good to be true, he probably is," says Burgo.
Level Two: How to Date a Narcissist (If You Dare)So, you like him—but after a few weeks or months of dating, you're starting to see those small red flags. The first thing you need to do is, "Remain humble and cautious; don't let flattery and the good feeling he tries to inspire in you blind you to his true nature," Burgo explains.
Nobody wants that, so here's how to spot narcissists out there in the dating wild. "While they may appear charming when you first meet them, and may even appear very interested, they do so only to elicit your admiration and to build themselves up in your eyes," Burgo says.
Level One: How to Spot a Narcissist Lack of interest and self-absorption are two big ones, but rarely does anyone—narcissist or not—show those traits on a first date (and if they do, run, girl. It can be very difficult to know if he's simply charming because he's into you (normal), or he's charming because he's into you being into him (narcissist).
is a licensed psychologist in clinical practice in Santa Cruz, California for over 25 years, and specializes in relationship issues for couples and individuals for improved quality of life.
Like a master salesperson, they use charisma to get your attention, flattery to make you feel special, seduction (flirting, gifts, dinners, get-aways, sex, etc.) to lift you off your feet, and persuasion to get you to give them what they want. Though I will tell you know that some Narcissists are STUBBORN and them thinking they are always in the right won't help.
"When a person remains in a relationship long after it has become obvious it's time to go, he or she usually has some unhealthy and unconscious reasons for staying," says Burgo.
Look at this (and any breakup, really) as a healing opportunity.
When you see this, "Get away as quickly as possible," advises Burgo.
Otherwise, the longer you stay, the more you're likely to make excuses or fall victim to his flattery.